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"I will" becomes "I can"
10.01.04 (1:27 pm)   [edit]

Gay marriage is something which has been scrutinised, applauded and ridiculed lately, but here’s my two centimos worth.


 


Today, gay marriage is made legal here in Spain. José Luis Rodríguez Zapatero will change ten items on the Civil Code in an attempt to give gay people equal rights. He says, “nobody living in this country should ever feel like a second class citizen.” Of course the Catholic Church is beside itself and condemned the decision, saying “…it’s like unleashing a virus on the country”. Well Mr. J.P. II, it seems the people of Spain don’t agree with you because 75% are in favour of the changes. Although gay marriage is legal in Germany, Netherlands and Sweden, Spain is the first country to give FULL recognition to gay couples. I for one feel that’s something to be proud of, especially in a country where divorce was legalised as recently as 1981.


My partner and I became a “legal couple” last year, and although this gave us many more legal rights (and a hoolie  of a party) we are still exempt from others unless we actually get married. So, just like straight people we now have a choice…it’s THAT simple.


Choice may not seem like a big deal to somebody who already has it, but for those who don’t it’s something to treasure.  Today is a great day in the world of Andaloo!

 


posted by: benontheblock (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (4:36 am)

Congratulations to you and everyone in Spain!!!



posted by: TigerGrrl (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (4:44 am)

Congratulations! I'm very excited and happy for you. I can completely relate to how you must be feeling. I have a girlfriend, who lives is from Australia, and lives there... I am from the United States and live in the US. So it's almost impossible for us to be able to get together on any sort of a permenant basis right now.

Today, the Federal Marriage Amendment that they have been trying to pass here, just Failed in the House of Representatives, I believe it was. It faild the Senate a month or two ago. I'm very glad for that.

I'm hoping that someday, my country will be as accepting as yours and a few others, such as Canada.

I'm very happy for you :)
Take care.
TigerGrrl



posted by: flaring (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (6:50 am)

Loops! So, is there a wedding being planned? A date set? Will you mind if a "few" of your blog-friends stop by to help you celebrate and throw rice?



posted by: Mimi (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (9:09 am)

yeah, loops! and did you see the gay couple that won custody of the foster daughters...one absolutely requires 2 dads...she had been abused by her maternal mother! so, congrats! to you and to "dad & daddy"! xoxox



posted by: Mimi (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (9:10 am)

p.s. it's not about anything else but the best for the children!



posted by: badaunt (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (10:15 am)

Way to go Spain!

'Equal rights' has stopped meaning 'equal rights for everybody except you and you and you' in one more country. Let's hope the idea keeps spreading.



posted by: SusanofPudlin (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (5:23 pm)

OOOOHHHHH!!! Let ME plan the wedding??? PLEEEEAAAASSSEEE!!! I am so thrilled for you. Where are you planning to register? Crate and Barrel? Bed Bath and Beyond? Target? Do all three!!! What kind of flowers do you want? Have you written the vows? When can I come and get busy?



posted by: NurseNancy (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (8:24 pm)

This is a good thing for many people. I am pleased that same sex partners are now recognized as the legal next of kin. That medical decisions can be made by each of the partners for the other.
I always felt that my patient's partners were the ones I wanted to plan care with, not the next of kin who was probably the sister in from Pittsburg. In the bad old days I was not be "allowed " to discuss care with a partner. I did anyway, but legally I could have lost my licence for breach of confidentiality. IMHO,The RC church is a wet blanket, anyhow.



posted by: rosietulips (reply)
post date: 10.01.04 (9:52 pm)

Hurrah!



posted by: Daisymae (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (2:57 am)

Congratulations! Something to be very proud of! Times have changed, and we really need to change with it!



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (12:34 pm)

Reply to: benontheblock
Thanks Ben. Great news eh!



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (12:37 pm)

Reply to: TigerGrrl
Thanks again. Sorry to hear about your long distance relationship, that must be really difficult to say the least!



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (12:50 pm)

Reply to: flaring
Ha Ha I can imagine a coach load of t-bloggers at a party...interesting idea. To be honest we haven't decided what to do yet. Being totally unromantic we're working out the financial benefits, and if we do go ahead and marry it will be a very quiet event. (Becoming a legal couple last year was the most bizarre thing I've ever experienced...Hmmm maybe I'll write about it, and the party grew to be a bit out of hand.) I like the idea of rice though.



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (12:53 pm)

Reply to: Mimi
You're so right when you say its all about what's best for the kids. I'm still sat on the fence with gay couples adopting, it's too big an issue for me to get my head round.



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (12:56 pm)

Reply to: badaunt
Small steps, from little acorns and other such clichés. As usual you're right.



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (1:04 pm)

Reply to: SusanofPudlin
LMAO You would love that wouldn't you? Do you think we should register with Tarjay or Bitch Boy? As for the vows...I'm thinking Leonard Cohen or Twisted Sister. Please advise.



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (1:10 pm)

Reply to: NurseNancy
The implications of this bill will stretch far and wide. Sadly I know too many people who were kept out of any decision making when it came to a sick partner. From myself, and on behalf of the many "silent partners" THANK YOU!



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (1:13 pm)

Reply to: rosietulips
LOL I LOVE that word! Awww thanks Rosie.



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (1:16 pm)

Reply to: Daisymae
It's hard sometimes to keep up with the changes, and even harder to understand the implications of some. But sometimes it just feels SO right.



posted by: SusanofPudlin (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (2:16 pm)

Reply to: Andaloo
It's just sad that you are not in New York or we could have the Fab Five throw it.
Yes on Leonard Cohen. No on the rice. No rice, no balloons. We will use bird seed. Besides, rice is about fertility and we don't want you converting to breeders now do we? And no red velvet groom's cakes in the shape of an armadillo either.
Register at Tarjay, Crate and Barrel, and Restoration Hardware. Also William Sonoma. Go for the Wusthof Trident knives. Start with the offset serrated one. YOU will LOVE it. The New York Times did a critique of it and that is how I came to own one. Now I cannot live without it. Also, thread count - no less than 350 and you prefer Egyptian Cotton, thank you.



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.02.04 (3:30 pm)

Reply to: SusanofPudlin
I've had enough already! The whole thing's off. Actually...just been reminded that he hasn't proposed yet. HUH?



posted by: TigerGrrl (reply)
post date: 10.03.04 (3:04 am)

Reply to: Andaloo

lol, I'm very sorry about the distance, but definately not about the relationship. It is very difficult at times, but I wouldn't trade it for a relationship with anyone else in the world even if it meant they could be with me every day.



posted by: Andaloo (reply)
post date: 10.03.04 (3:10 am)

Reply to: TigerGrrl
Just re-read what I wrote...oops!



posted by: TigerGrrl (reply)
post date: 10.03.04 (3:14 am)

Reply to: Andaloo

no need to be sorry :) I know that you weren't saying sorry for the relationship itself.. just sorry that it had to be long distance. ;)



posted by: Toad (reply)
post date: 10.05.04 (5:45 am)

Yeah!!!! At least Spain is getting on with the times unlike the US congrats to you Andaloo and your partner!

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